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SAFETY PLANNING

1. SAFETY BEFORE AND DURING AN
   EXPLOSIVE INCIDENT

  • Practice how to get out of your home safely. Identify which doors, windows, lifts or staircases would be best.

  • Talk to a trusted neighbour about your family and domestic violence. Encourage them to call the Police if they hear anything that sounds like abuse at your property. Develop a code like turning on the front house lights if you need help during the day and off at night. Speak to the neighbours about a code word the children will tell them that means they are to call the Police and you need help.

  • Give children who are old enough to understand a code word that means - leave the house and go to the neighbour’s house. If you do not believe it is safe for the children to leave your house, then identify in your home with them a safe place where they can go until the police arrive e.g. a toilet with no windows and a lock or even a pantry.

  • Always encourage your children to seek help and not to try to help you in a violent incident. Teach them how to call 000 for the police, fire and ambulance services. Tell them not to hang up afterwards as this helps the services to monitor what is happening and to find you.

  • Keep your phone charged, with credit, and on you at all times. Make sure emergency numbers are easy to locate.

  • If you think an argument is unavoidable, try to have it in a room or area where you have access to an exit. Try to stay away from the bathroom, kitchen, bedroom or anywhere else where weapons might be available to be used against you e.g. sharp kitchen knives or tools.

  • Use your own instincts and judgement.  If the situation is very dangerous, say what the abuser wants to hear, to calm him down.  You have the right to protect yourself until you are out of danger.

  • Always remember – YOU DO NOT DESERVE TO BE HIT, THREATENED OR ABUSED!

If you are still living
in a family and domestic violence situation

there are things you can do
to make yourself and
your children safer.

2. SAFETY WHEN PREPARING TO LEAVE

 

Planning to leave safely is important in a situation where family and domestic violence has been present in the relationship.

 

Separation is the most dangerous time for victims of violence, so it is important to consider the following:​

  • Start keeping a diary of all incidences of abuse, dates, times, witnesses and injuries as you may need these for Court in the future. Keep it in a safe place where your abuser will not find it

  • If it is safe to do so, take photos on your phone of any injuries after incidences of abuse and forward them to a safe person.

  • Always try to see your GP after an incident of abuse so they can record the details and to make sure you are okay.

  • If possible, get in contact with a family and domestic violence service so they can offer you support and advice.

  • Make sure you know the phone numbers for emergency services such as the Police and Crisis Care 08 9223 1111 if you need help or to seek crisis accommodation. More useful numbers

  • Know your abuser’s schedule - this will assist you to know when he/she comes and goes and when it is safest to leave.

  • Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important documents, extra medicines and clothes with someone you trust so you can leave quickly.

  • Determine who would be able to let you stay with them or lend you some money when you leave.

  • Open a savings account and/or a credit card in your own name to start to establish or increase your independence.  Think of other ways in which you can increase your independence.

  • Go to the post office - redirect your mail from the date you plan to leave so you will continue to receive mail that is important.

  • Review your safety plan as often as possible in order to plan the safest way to leave your abuser. 

3. SAFETY WHEN LEAVING

  • DO NOT inform your children of your plan to leave BUT DO inform your support people if it is safe to do so.

  • Park your car where it would be easy to escape and keep it topped up with fuel. Place your extra car key in a safe place outside your home where it would be easy to grab and go.

  • If you have been using the computer to browse information, make sure you erase your browsing history.

  • If you have dialled for help or information from a landline, immediately dial another number to prevent your abuser using redial and finding out where you are.

  • Turn off the GPS tracking on your and your children’s phones, iPads and other electrical devises – if you don’t know how to do this speak to a phone carrier and they will assist you.

  • Lock your car doors when travelling at all times after you have left the home.

  • Go straight to a safe place and contact your support people or the emergency services

  • If your abuser has access to your bank account go to the bank, withdraw your money and open a new account in your name only. Keep the details safe. Only do this on the day you plan to leave or it can alert your partner.

IDENTIFICATION
  • Driver’s Licence

  • Children’s birth certificates

  • Your birth certificate

  • Medicare card

  • Social Security card

  • Marriage certificate

 

FINANCIAL
  • Money and/or credit cards

  • Bank books

  • Cheque books

 

LEGAL PAPERS
  • Your Violence Restraining Order

  • Lease, rental agreement, house deed

  • Car registration & insurance papers

  • Medical records for you and your children

  • Passport

  • Divorce papers

  • Custody papers

 

OTHER
  • House and car keys

  • Medications

  • Handbag

  • Phone card

  • Photographs

  • Children’s small toys

  • Toiletries and nappies

  • Change of clothing for you and your children

CHECKLIST OF WHAT YOU NEED TO TAKE WHEN YOU LEAVE